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It's not the destination, but the journey that matters.
by Rich
by Rich
Summary
How to Fail (and How Not To)
How to Build Character
How to Think
How to Succeed
A Better Path
by Rich
Introduction
pregnancy
relationship
How to protect your relationship
smart baby: seeds
smart baby: soil
4. Praise effort, not IQ
happy baby: seeds
happy baby: soil
6 Key Parenting Tips:
moral baby
2. Swift punishment
Four Effective Guidelines to Punishment
3. Rules that are explained
sleepy baby
Conclusion
practical tips
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Introduction:
PART I: THE EXTROVERT IDEAL
Chapter 1 – The rise of the Mighty Likeable Fellow
Chapter 2 – The Myth of Charismatic Leadership
Chapter 3 – When Collaboration Kills Creativity
PART II: YOUR BIOLOGY, YOUR SELF?
Chapter 4 – Is Temperament Destiny?
Chapter 5 – Beyond Temperament
Chapter 6 – Franklin Was a Politician, But Eleanor Spoke Out of Conscience
Chapter 7 – Why Did Wall Street Crash and Warren Buffet Prosper?
PART III DO ALL CULTURES HAVE AN EXTOVERT IDEAL?
Chapter 8 – Soft Power: Asian Americans and the Extrovert Ideal
PART IV: HOW TO LOVE, HOW TO WORK
Chapter 9 – When Should You Act More Extroverted Than You Really Are?
Chapter 10 – The Communication Gap: How to Talk to Members of the Opposite Sex
Chapter 11 – On Cobblers and Generals: How to Cultivate Quiet Kids in a World That Can’t Hear Them
Conclusion
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Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You better slow down
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
Do you run through each day
On the fly?
When you ask: How are you?
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done,
Do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
Ever told your child,
We’ll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say, “Hi”?
You’d better slow down
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through the day,
It is like an unopened gift thrown away.
Life is not a race.
Do take it slower.
Hear the music
Before the song is over.
Rich’s thoughts: I love this poem and is a constant reminder to be present and fully in the moment. Take action now. Don’t wait for tomorrow.
by Rich
This is the third book in Emily’s series of parenting books dedicated to ages 5-12. The book is focused on how to run your family like a business and apply structure to the decision-making process for your kids. The end goal is to develop a strategy around your parenting philosophy that you will deliberately and proactively use to navigate the day-to-day tasks/questions that come up in life so that you’ll be happier and life will run smoother.
Compared to her prior books, there aren’t many reliable studies and data to help answer newer parenting issues and thus, a framework for thinking through these challenges is important to make a well informed (not correct!) decision.
Frame the Question: “Think about the question you are asking. This is often the hardest step. It may seem easy, but in many cases, our starting-point question is too vague to really be answerable. ‘What kind of school is right?’ isn’t a question you can answer well. Much better is ‘Should we send our child to school A or school B?’”
Fact-Find: “Gather the evidence, data, and details you need. This may involve learning more about the logistics and thinking through how you could make this work (or not). Or it may involve data on benefits and risks of each option (risk of concussions in a sport for instance). This step (the longest one) is a chance to get all the factors together, clearly, in one place.”
Final Decision: “Once you have the evidence, have a meeting, and use that meeting to make a decision. This may seem obvious, but people often fail to have this single decision meeting and instead revisit the question again and again with different information. Let the decision take a lot of headspace in a single moment, decide, and move on.”
Follow-Up: “This is the least obvious, but may be the most important step in the process. You need to have a concrete plan for reviewing the decision. Once you’ve made a choice and implemented it, schedule a time in the future to discuss how it went. Hopefully you made the right choice, but if you didn’t, better to rethink it sooner than late.”